Tis the season to be jolly, but it could also be the season to fall into depression if you’re not careful.
A lot of us will be traveling home to spend time with family or have friends over and hang out with people we care about.
It is at gatherings like this that people tend to start making unnecessary comparisons, measuring progress and generally making you feel bad about what you have not yet achieved in life.
This could come from both well meaning family and friends, and people who have a secret vendetta against you.
If you’re single, you may hear things like, “where is him?”or “where is her?” Tell them him or her is where God kept them.
If you’re waiting for a child, you may hear things like, “When will you give us grand children?” Or “when will I become an aunty or an uncle?” Tell them God is taking His time to perfect your baby.
If you’re waiting for admission, you may hear, “Have you registered for JAMB again?”. Tell them yes. Bone face and walk away.
If you’re waiting on a job, you may hear, “So when will you finally have work na?” Tell them to read Ecclesiastes chapter 3. There is a time and season for everything.
If your business hasn’t been as successful as you’d hoped, you may hear, “can’t you see your brother or sister taking care of the family? When will it be your turn?” Tell them again to read Ecclesiastes chapter 3.
In fact, if you cannot stand these kinds of conversations, don’t even go. Sit at home, eat your food and enjoy your own company. Be grateful for all you have accomplished and who you have become.
This is not the time to allow family and friends ruin your whole mood and drive you to depression when you should be gearing up for the New Year.
The holidays are a time to spend with people who make you happy. If you can’t find anyone, go be that person for someone else.
Go out and make someone’s day better.
Give to your local orphanage or your local place of worship.
Buy Malt for all the security men on your street.
Share a meal with your neighbors, no matter their religion or tribe.
Above all, protect your energy, sanity and peace of mind this season.
Be careful out there. Don’t drink and drive. Don’t go into a car with a driver who appears drunk. Take an Uber, Bolt or ORide instead.
Avoid places that have a high risk of turning aggressive and dangerous. As much as possible, avoid going out too late at night.
Ladies, deploy all the safety measures. If you must go out late, go in pairs or in groups. Don’t leave drinks unattended to or accept opened drinks from strangers. Also don’t accept free rides from people you don’t know.
Look out for people that may be in trouble and help them. Don’t instigate violence, whether male or female.
When you attend parties, keep your personal belongings close. Always have money for transport. Tell someone where you are at all times.
To everyone, in all your dealings, be moderate. Don’t over-compensate, remember that life continues in 2023.
Happy Holidays and welcome to 2023!
